The amnio results

I can remember where we were sitting when the phone call came in with the amnio results. We had gotten the amnio immediately after the ultrasound (on Wednesday) and were expecting the FISH results (preliminary, but highly accurate. just tests a smaller sample of cells, I think) on Friday. Well, Friday afternoon went by with no phone call. 6pm no phone call. Around 7pm the phone rang and it was the genetic counselor. At this point, I was just waiting to hear the news - either Trisomy 13 or 18. Which one is it? That way I could get on with my research. Prepare as best I could for baby Faith. Shiloh, on the other hand, was waiting for different news. Perhaps, "We were wrong. It is not chromosomal. Just a bunch of defects ... that can be fixed." So for me the phone call was not so surprising or disappointing (for me most of the disappointment happened at the ultrasound), "Your baby has Trisomy 13." Our baby was not fixable.

Shiloh laid back on the couch in silence. Then he spoke, "I feel like the wind has just been taken out of my sails. I never want to get up from the couch again."

And with that, my heart sank. It was a sad night at the Hagen house.